The problem with one night stands is that they usually suck. Let’s not make bones about it–there is usually a copious amount of alcohol involved, a high level of urgency and more variables than an interest rate. For this reason, a lot of people don’t put a lot of faith in having good sex on a one night stand, but the good news is that there are quite a few things you can do to drastically improve the quality of your one night stands. From involving your favourite
sex toys in the situation to becoming more body confident, making an effort on your one night stands can result in much better pleasure quality…and hey, maybe even a second night to follow it up…
Confidence is Key
A common complaint both men and women have about one night stands is that they feel very inhibited because they’ve never had sex with the person before. If you turn this reasoning on its head, however, you can use a one night stand as an excuse to be less inhibited than ever–after all, you have nothing to live up to, no preconceptions, and really, nothing to lose. Why not take the opportunity to really let loose, and make it about having fun, rather than upholding some unreachable ideal about how to act.
Get Frisky
Following on from this logic, why not use a one night stand to unleash your inner freak? Explore your kinkier side, play a part, act the seductress and basically just let your sexy side show. A one night stand is not the time to play coy or lady-like…after all, you’ve brought him home on the first night so he knows you’re not exactly an old-fashioned prude…embrace it!!
Give and Receive
Another thing that lets people down on a one night stand is that more often than not it turns into a race to the finish line, with both parties steaming towards their individual orgasm and not bothering to worry about the other person. While it’s important to have your eye on the prize, so to speak, you should still think about making that all-important sexual connection.
Toys
Who says you can’t include sex toys in a one night stand? One of the quickest ways to take drab sex to fab sex is to involve props. The excitement of exploring sex with a new person combined with the excitement of well-trusted vibrators or other toys can really heat things up.
Next time you find yourself eyeing off that hottie in the bar, and weighing up whether it’s worth taking them home for a romp in the bedroom, set yourself a challenge to have truly amazing sex with them. You’ll be surprised how good it can be with a little bit of effort.
