Sex Life woman-in-collar

Published on March 17th, 2011 | by Charlie

0

An Introduction to Bondage

Ever fancied yourself a bit of a sexual tigress? Gotten off on being bossy to the point of unreasonable? Enjoyed to spank, or be spanked? In any other scenario, these impulses have to be reeled in–normal society just doesn’t accept that kind of behaviour. In the bedroom with a willing partner, however, you can indulge these fantasies to your heart’s content. This is what bondage is all about. So if you’re thinking it’s something you’d like to try, we’ve got some great advice to get you started, from which sex toys to use to how to initiate kinky, bondage-style sex. Enjoy!

Getting Started

If you haven’t yet discussed the idea of bondage or S&M with your partner, it is a good idea to do so before you just launch into whipping them! Everyone has a preferred level of involvement with this style of sex, so it’s important to set your boundaries and test the waters before diving in (leather-clad) head first! Have a conversation with your partner about the kind of things that turn you on and whether or not they’d be into trying a few things out. If you’re into being dominated, make sure your partner is happy to play the role of dominator. The roles don’t have to be set in stone either…who’s to say that a person who plays dominator one week can’t be dominated the next?

Common Fantasies

Easing yourself into a bit of good bondage or S&M can be a hell of a good time. Why not start off by tying your partner up with some silk scarves. If you have a wooden bed-frame this is perfect, as you can tie one limb each to one corner of the bed. Make sure they’re comfortable (a leg-cramp in this situation really kills the mood) and then blindfold them as well. Kiss your way slowly up each leg, refusing any pleas from your partner to go faster or move closer to the business-end of proceedings…the sweet pleasure in this is all to do with prolonged gratification and loss of control. By the time you’re finally ready to engage in full sex your partner will be positively gagging for it!

Props

The best part of bondage is the toys you get to incorporate. Whips, feathers, handcuffs, vibrators, dress-ups….the sky really is the limit and props make things all the more exciting. Once you’ve become more confident in your explorations of the world of bondage, you can start to branch out into different fantasies. Acting out scenarios is something that can be a lot of fun, and playing the different roles (usually one powerful, one submissive) can be exhilarating. Why not act out the naughty student and the disciplinary teacher? Or the doctor and the patient? Power-plays that are completely inappropriate anywhere other than the bedroom all of a sudden become sexy, taboo and incredibly hot.

Sex doesn’t have to be the same every time. In fact, sex is at its best when used to play out secret fantasies and hidden wants and needs. Exploring these with your partner is healthy, fun and most of all, satisfying.

Tags: ,


About the Author



Comments are closed.

Back to Top ↑