Published on September 4th, 2011 | by Charlie0
Shopping for Sex Toys with your Partner
Choose your timing carefully
You want to purchase some fun toys to spice up your sex life with your partner, but the last thing you want to do is bring that up just after you’ve had intercourse. Choose your timing carefully so they don’t get the wrong idea about why you want to go shopping.
Talk to them when it’s just the two of you and you have plenty of time to talk. Talk openly about some ideas you have, and gauge if it is something they would be interested in. If they react uneasy, leave it and perhaps try again at a later date. If they are receptive to the idea, ask them if they have any suggestions or things they would like to buy for both of you to enjoy or to enhance their own sexual pleasure in the bedroom.
When you and your partner first start using sex toys, you don’t want to immediately rush out and buy an array of whips, chains and other more ‘hardcore’ items. Start with things like dildos and vibrators for women. Many women will not reach climax just by penetration anyway so this will immediately enhance their arousal in the bedroom. For a man, a penis ring or something similar might be a good starting point.
If you have already used a vibrator or penis ring, you may want to begin exploring anal play. There are heaps of great items available that will help you explore this option too.
Where to go shopping
There are heaps of sex shops with both physical addresses and online shops too. If you and your partner are newbies to this, you may want to purchase online if you feel uncomfortable with going into a shop. Online adult shops offer you the utmost discretion when you make your purchase so you don’t have to be concerned about your neighbour seeing you sign for a large parcel label ‘sex toys r us.’
Have fun with it
Have some champagne, play some music and browse the online shop together. Be 100% honest about what you like and don’t like and what you are comfortable trying out. Remember, start simple if you’re a newbie to this and if you enjoy what you’ve bought, you can always expand your play box of sex toys.
Talk about your sexual fantasies with your partner and how you’d like to increase the pleasure for both of you in the bedroom. Talk about some of the fun items you can buy to live out your fantasies and enjoy each other. Always remember, you are only limited by your imaginations.